Surah Mujadilah, 58:7). He likes to stay in the presence of non-Mahram women more so than anywhere else. He said, What is your circumstance? They said, We do not water until the shepherds dispatch [their flocks]; and our father is an old man.. I don't know wat again to do. joking and laughing; that is not part of etiquette and dignity. Note: In the understated examples of programs and other mixed gatherings there is a probability of sin, and more so than other instances, one must be extra cautious: To have mixed dinner parties, especially if the people attending are youths; non-Mahrams eating together at the same table; going with non-Mahrams to amusement parks or other entertainment places such as gardens, parks, mountains, travelling especially if a non-Mahram man and woman are in a car alone; to joke around with a non-Mahrams; two non-Mahram working together in one shop, etc, 219 Rule: If a non-Mahram man and woman are in a secluded place in which there is no one else present, and no one else can enter there, then if there is a fear of falling into sin, they must leave that place for them to remain there is haram. As such, when the need arises to talk, both the content and manner of conversation must be appropriate and free of anything enticing. Answer: All kinds of relations with a non-mahram including joking, expressing mutual love, talking with the intention of deriving pleasure, looking at the body of a girl (except her face and hands up to the wrists) and at her hair or looking at her face with pleasure are Haram (forbidden).In fact, if it is feared that they might fall into a sin, it is forbidden for them to have any kind of . But in reality, there may occur inevitable circumstances where a woman may need to talk to a man and vice versa. In some Muslim communities, people consider that it is completely forbidden for a man to communicate with a non-mahram woman and vice versa. poets see anything wrong with talking to, addressing or looking at Even our Therefore, to walk in a specific way, talk, perform a specific action, smile or laugh in a special way to a non-Mahram, joke, or even to study in front of a non-Mahram with the aim of drawing the attention of the non-Mahram and make him fall into sin; wearing a specific kind of clothing, holding different things such as a bag, book, or flowers or even the way of holding these things in ones hand so as to make others fall into sin, looking at non-Mahrams in a certain way, etc all of these are examples which, if done with an intention of drawing the attention of others and making them fall into sin, are haram. 102930. GKLM, 184 Rule: It is not allowed for a woman to speak to a non-Mahram man with the intention of making him fall into sin; whether she specifies that the reason she is talking to him is to make him fall into sin, or she talks about something that would make the non-Mahram man fall into a sin - such as explaining stimulating and sensual scenes, or explaining about things that would make the non-Mahram man become aroused upon hearing them. Answer: If it is performed intentionally with the aim or desire of having semen discharged, and one knows that by having such thoughts, semen will come out, then one must refrain from this. permissible, but it is essential to pay attention to the following How many a times has it happened that they shake each others hands or even kiss each other! lest he in whose heart is a disease (of hypocrisy, or evil desire for questions. the matter at hand, without talking too much or branching off into other They should not let their voices be soft, or use soft and gentle expressions. (See 3/147-171 thereof). There are many examples of this principle in the Shari`ah. At the time of buying and selling things in stores. saying Inna Lillaahi wa inna ilayhi raajioon (Verily to Allaah we to get sick owing to a handshake. Believers Aaishah (may Allah be pleased with her) narrated the story of Answer: This action is haram, and if one has certainty that semen has been discharged, then one must perform a Ghusl. It is not necessary to cut off relations with them since there is a possibility that maybe, by keeping ties with them, it may have an affect on them. If you are talking to a non-Mahram then I advise you not to do a video call because you must be in a state of purdah. That is purer for them. I try to be the best obedient loving zawja i possibly could, but i look at wat he is doing is disrespectful towards me his wife and against islam .just yesterday there was this girl with her body naked and in front of me he look at the picture n . 182 Rule: Women are permitted to speak to non-Mahram men if the following conditions are met: The speaking is not done with the intention of lust and seeking (sexual) pleasure. It fulfills its historic and civil role by keeping contemporary Muslim in touch with religious principles, clarifying the right way, removing doubts concerning religious and worldly . He has told me that he wants to marry me, but right now is too soon, i m only 16 and will be 17 in 2 months the situation is too hard to explainand i am really confused on what should be done..and what shouldnt. Whoever knows that he is somewhat weak, and is afraid that he may fall into the traps of the Shaytan, has to refrain from such conversations , in order to save himself. Note: According to the Islamic etiquette, all actions that a person commits for showing off are discouraged and are not recommended to be performed. Views : silence in that situation out of good manners and politeness, and because of May Allah (SWT) guide them and acquaint them with the Laws of Islam. Al-Iraaqi Assalamaleykum,I pray this finds you in the best of states. And tell the believing women to reduce of their vision and guard their private parts. They should not ask about personal matters that have no bearing on the matter being discussed, such as how old a person is, how tall he or she is, or where he or she lives etc. do not speak in lowered tones (with a sweet voice) lest he in whose heart is a disease of lust should be moved with desire. communication with others by movements of the hand or face or by quoting In the morning he reached the place where I was and he saw Men - especially our dear youth Must stay away from these types of things because this kind of socializing and speaking (with members of the opposite sex) are usually associated with the intention of lust and obtaining (sexual) pleasure and can lead to being haram, according to Islam. we came to the army. are offered handshakes by non-mahrams and it leaves us in an uncomfortable it is haraam and comes under the heading of the zina of the tongue and ears Note: In the below mentioned circumstances, one must be more cautious than in other instances about the bodily contact (not taking place) with a non-Mahram: Taking or giving even a small object from the hands of a non-Mahram (for example exact change). The issue of talking to the opposite sex here also comes under this category. May Allah peace be upon you. Islam faces many false claims regarding communication between men and women who are not mahram (also referred to as mehram) to each other. mahram, and it is haraam to do the same in the presence of a non-mahram. Whoever knows that he is somewhat weak, and is afraid that he may fall into the traps of the Shaytan, has to refrain from such conversations, in order to save himself. from him is not repeating the previous idea (we did not exchange a word). conversation should be limited to only what is necessary and has to do with He did not speak to her; rather he used People falling into adultery, extramarital affairs, office romances, teen relationships and so on originate from intermixing with the opposite gender and engaging in socialization with them. He didnt turn away stating You will need to follow the instructions in that message in order to gain full access to the site. Avoiding AGKLT. (In the event that there is contact between the two from on top of the clothing)? There is no fear of falling into corruption. or both the parties engage in a conversation that stirs feelings of desire, it Ustadha Zaynab Ansari's advice is to err on the side of Islamic manners and limit unnecessary interaction. When speaking to each other, they do not have the intention of lust. It is possible that he did not speak to her; rather he spoke to himself or The main goal of this site is to provide authentic Islamic knowledge and resources through visual and written content that allows the Muslim Ummah to enjoy reading quality content while gaining valuable pearls of wisdom. G, Answer: Thinking about such things in itself is not a problem. For a Muslim female to chat with a non-mahram male is not permissible, unless in circumstances that it is necessary like a: Doctor, business etc. he recited Quraan out loud or said dhikr out loud such that it could be The 2 conditions are as follows: 1. Can I Speak to a Non-Mahram for Unnecessary Reasons? However, the conversation may steer toward what is reprehensible or forbidden. When speaking to each other, it must not lead to either one of them sinning. ABGKLMST, 207 Rule: Kissing any part of the body of a Mahram, which one is permitted to look at is not a problem, whether it be on the forehead, the shoulders, the hands, etc. Note: It is makruh in the event that there is nothing haram in the gathering, otherwise this intermingling will become haram. anyone else. Source: Answered by Shaykh Irshaad Sedick Question For a year, I was getting the company https://seekersguidance.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/12/cell-phone-690192_1280.jpg, https://seekersguidance.org/svg/Logo/SG-Logo-Main.svg. Please keep us in your duas! The only exception to this rule is ones spouse. 2. that it is a part of your religious teaching. But what we must also remember is it is a disliked act to talk to the opposite . What is the ruling on our interactions with them? al-Muattal al-Sulami al-Dhakwaani was behind the army and had set out at But none of that happened. In summary, he likes any action that non-Mahram women are participating in more than any other work. G. 215 Question: Is it allowed to think about or imagine arousing scenes that make a person become sexually excited? What is the ruling if it is done without the intention of lust? BGKLMS, 173 Rule: It is Makruh to speak to non-Mahram women, unless it is in the case of a necessity, especially if the one being spoken to is a young woman. JazakAllah sister, this is wonderful article, helped me with my school assignment. 195 Question: We are living in a Western country and attending University there, and whenever we meet our female Professors or fellow students (female), we are compelled to shake their hands, and if we dont, then this will make the Muslim students look as if they have bad manners. First and foremost, as Muslims, we should be aware of who our mahrams and non-mahrams are. al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) said: None of the Its not like we have ever talked about anything indecent, we talk in a well-respected manner, and he sometimes jokes around too. A.Liusha, Maldives. Unchecked, these developments can have a devastating impact on young people, particularly if the relationship is broken off by one of the parties, or, in the worst-case scenario, a physical relationship happens outside of marriage. 199 Question: At the time of giving money to a driver (taxi), if the hand of the woman touches the hand of the driver, is this haram? 218 Rule: It is not allowed to go to a gathering in which one knows that something haram will take place. Some people use their skills in We are This is what the scholars call the principle of warding off harm. AGK, According to Ihtiyat (Wajib), the combined kaffarah must be given. of the tongue is speaking, the zina of the hands is touching, and the zina If you regularly visit this site and wish to show your appreciation, or if you wish to see further development of Al-Islam.org, please donate online. Follow not the footsteps of Shaytan. [al-Nur 24:21]. is it allowed to talking to a non mahram because of your work without any sexual intention or any evil thoughts i'm a tennis player i play tennis in a academy when i'm playing i don't talk to girls by myself they start conversation by calling me you know because they are open minded they don't care about what they are wearing they wear revealing L. 188 Question: Is it allowed for a man to listen to a woman singing alone, if it does not lead to (sexual) excitement? If any AGK, 202 Rule: According to Ihtiyat Wajib, men must not hug, kiss or put girls that are 6 years of age or older on their laps. When we are in our workplaces or universities, refusing handshakes could gain a lot of attention. When there The adultery of the eye is the lustful look, and the adultery of the tongue is the licentious speech, the heart desires and yearns, which the parts may or may not put into effect.. Full Lecture: Muslim Identity - Mufti Menkhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7HecYalPr6ALike Us on Facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/MuslimAkhiOfficialFollow Us o. AGKLMS. 222 Rule: If showing off is not with the aim of wanting others to fall into sin, then it is not haram. The Asking help from non-Mahram men for things that are not necessary; asking non-Mahram men questions while it is possible to ask a Mahram the same question; having discussions with men and putting ones self between a discussion; exposing ones talents or virtues to a non-Mahram and socializing with non-Mahram men more; having more of an affection to work in an environment in which there are non-Mahram men in summary, all examples such as these in which there is a probability of falling into sin, and interactions in such places which are commonly done with the intention of deriving (sexual) pleasure, can lead to being be haram, according to the Laws of Islam. In Islam, conversation, whether verbally or in writing, between men and women is permissible in and of itself, but it may be a way of falling into the traps of the Satan. So you may talk to them for example in the presence of a mahram, or inquire about them through a mahram intermediary such as their or your parents. It is KL, If it leads to corruption, then it is not permitted; rather, most often, women reading (Quran) in the presence of men and men listening to such a thing leads to corruption and thus, it is not allowed. non-mahram women may occur because of a need or it may occur needlessly. Allah, may He be exalted, says, addressing the Mothers of the S. Note: Masturbation means that a one performs any action which leads to the discharge of semen. B, Women and girls must not recite the Quran in a tone in the presence of non-Mahram men, and similarly, if a man is reciting in a way that a woman gets enjoyment (of a lustful type), then it is a problem. G, 181 Rule: It is not allowed to talk to someone about anything that is related to sexual or intimate issues (except ones spouse). 206 Rule: If a person knows that if by kissing someone else, whether it be a child or ones Mahram, he will fall into sin, then he must not kiss that person. It is Answer: It is not allowed, unless it is done on top of clothing, and in this situation, according to Ihtiyat Wajib, one must not squeeze the other ones hand. the end of night. Especially those women who are in more contact with non-Mahram men more than others, such as nurses, or those women who works in various businesses and companies, in sports and fitness clubs, etc must be extra cautious (when dealing with non-Mahram men). For example, to accept a dinner invitation in which a person knows that by going there he will be forced to look at non-Mahram women without hijab, or he will backbite others, lie, or perform any other haram act, is not allowed. This hadeeth with the etiquette of talking to women; please refer to it. However, if ejaculation takes place, then it will be counted as masturbation, and this (masturbation) is haram. 198 Rule: It is permitted to look at, and touch the body of an old woman without the intention of sexual excitement. Taking or giving keys, or any other small things. AGKLMS, 186 Question: Is a woman allowed to speak to a non-Mahram man who wants to talk with her in a lustful manner? quote. adultery, etc.) As for talking to her without need or when there is fear of temptation, then it is not permissible. The only intimate relationship that is allowed in Islam is marriage, and even while engaged one shouldn't chat with your future spouse until the Nikah is completed. If the taxi driver has this fear, is it allowed for him to pick her up? AGKLMST, 208 Rule: It is haram to kiss anything with the intention of lust, even if it is a stone, wood, metal, a statue, etc AGK, If by kissing in this manner (of lust) one does not ejaculate, then it is not haram. 185 Rule: When a woman is speaking to a man, she must not make her voice pleasing and soft, such that if the person with whom she is talking to has a sickness in his heart, he will become attracted to her, even if she is talking to him about a general matter. M, It is haram for a man and woman who are non-Mahram to each other to remain in a secluded place in which there, is nobody else there in the event that there is a possibility of falling into corruption, even if others are able to enter into that place. We tend to talk too much and talk about things that are not important or things we don't care about when we talk to the opposite sex. manner [al-Ahzaab 33:32]. Therefore: Men and women who are non-Mahram are not allowed to shake hands with each other, nor can they have any other kind of bodily contact. Normally, it is permissible to talk with members of the opposite sex. Islamic gender etiquette is strict, yes, but it is strict for a reason. Secure few moments, everyday, to reflect upon the innumerable blessings of Allah and thank Him for bestowing them upon you. Answer: If it leads to corruption, then it is not allowed. Questions cannot be asked through this form. Talking with your non-mahram relatives is not prohibited, provided that Islamic requirements are observed and there is no risk of fitna. Avoiding the From the risalah: Looking at someone with lust or fear of falling into haram is haram. Men going to gatherings in which lots of women are present, or any place where there are lots of non-Mahram women present. There are a lot of pleasantries involved or flirtation which is frankly unnecessary. person. above picture clearly illustrates the mahram relationships of a female. In Islam, conversation, whether verbally or in writing, between men and women is permissible in and of itself, but it may be a way of falling into the traps of the Satan. Is talk he want. []. 1497, This hadeeth also shows good manners with non-mahram women, especially in the case of being alone with them out of necessity in the wilderness or elsewhere, as Safwaan did when he made his camel kneel without speaking or asking questions. dismiss the use of speech in a soft and gentle manner. Looking at non-Mahrams From the Prophet (s): O Ali, the first glance is for you while the second is against you and not for you. A, According to Ihtiyat Mustahab, it is better that men do not hug non-Mahram girls who are 6 years of age or older, sit them on their knees, or kiss them. Answer: One must refrain from all things that may lead to corruption. A validation e-mail has been sent to your e-mail address. What is our responsibility in this regard? Thus, as Muslims, we should get ourselves acquainted with our limits and behave in the way permissible in Islam, which ultimately is best for us. Furthermore, their girls and women do not observe the proper hijab and their hair also shows, and however much we advise them, it does not have any effect. important to avoid joking and laughing. Also upholding of the ties of kinship is not limited to . The dialogue must be in a modest and restrained manner, and limited to the extent of need. G, 224 Rule: Men too must not show off with the intention of wanting to make women fall into sin. 211 Question: I am a youth and when I think about arousing scenes, semen is discharged from me. Any other use of the hosted content, such as for financial gain, requires express approval from the copyright owners. way with regard to their religious commitment and worldly affairs. GKLM, One must refrain from things like that that may lead to corruption. Answer: It is wajib for the one who has masturbated to ask for forgiveness (from Allah), but before one asks for forgiveness, the Islamic punishment for committing masturbation must be handed out in the case that it is proven to the Islamic Judge that a haram act had been performed. (In the event that the woman knows that she will not fall into sin?). Tell the believing men to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts. If a needless conversation takes place between A woman with the body language and the tone of voice. topics. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and his Companions talked to non-mahram (person to whom marriage is permissible) women and Muslim men used to go to the Prophet's wives and . Maintain distance. S. 220 Question: Respectfully, I would like to inform you that we have relatives, who in addition to not reciting their Salat, also associate with Christians. If we want to close our eyes in our own house, then it is not possible, and if we look at them, then it is a sin. Indeed, Allah is acquainted with what they do. For a man to shake hands with a non-mahram woman is haraam and is not permitted at all. The Al-Islam.org site and the DILP are entirely supported by individual donors and well wishers. The same thing can be said for cousins of the opposite sex and they also indulge in similar actions. Please see: https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/can-a-young-man-and-women-be-platonic-friends/and: https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/chatting-online-to-a-cousin-im-attracted-to/And Allah knows best. AGKL, The act in itself is not a problem, but in every instance, it is wajib to refrain from sinning even if this means refraining from the introductory act (which in this case would mean not going to such a gathering), which would necessitate committing a sin (if performed). T. 216 Question: In your Risalah (book of Islamic rulings) it states that masturbation is religiously forbidden, however, please explain what Islams view is on the person who has masturbated? Women going (or passing by) a gathering or busy place where there are lots of non-Mahram men present. The conversation between Musa and the two young women is the ideal example of this from the T. Therefore: Eating something lustfully, looking at something or someone, touching or smelling anything or listening to any noise that of a person or anything else, saying a word to someone, even if it be with a child, and in summary, any action that is performed with the intention of lust, is haram. There should be no softening of the voice by either party. done needlessly and only for fun and enjoyment, then there is no doubt that belong and verily unto Him is our return) when he recognized me, and I ABGKS. If you must have a video call then you should be adequately covered according to the Shariah rules. Ustadha Zaynab Ansaris advice is to err on the side of Islamic manners and limit unnecessary interaction. ABGKLMS. The zina of the eyes is looking, the zina of the ears is listening, the zina Ibn For Example: It is haram for a woman to show off in such a way that a non-Mahram mans attention will be drawn towards her or he approaches her. them) and compare it with the way things are today. Stop feeling uptight or nervous around non-mahram men. (In the event that the man knows that he will not fall into a sin? did not hear any word from him apart from his saying Inna Lillaahi For example: If a woman cooks very good food when guests come over, or cleans the house better with the intention that the non-Mahram men will think that she is a hard-working woman and will be impressed by her; or one gives a very good speech with the intention that others will look at him/her in a better light, or other things like this, then these are not haram. Whoever is sure that he will be able to remain steadfast, then we think that it is permissible in his case, but there are certain conditions: Source: G. 191 Question: Is it allowed to read romance novels in which sexual issues are being discussed? Otherwise also these are wise words. Conditions of online chats between men and women in Islam. 145275. Answer: If it happens accidentally, then it is not a problem; but if purposely the hands meet one another, then it is not allowed. T, 209 Rule: Any kind of touching with a part of the body, to an object or person with the intention of lust is haram (with the exception of ones spouse). 180 Question: What is the ruling for a man to talk in such a way in that he imitates a womans voice, or vice versa? BGKLMS, 175 Rule: It is haram for a man to speak to a non-Mahram woman with the intention of making her fall into sin. Create an account, If you do not have an account, you can click the button below to create one, Create new account Any Muslims you deal with (whether family or not) should . Believers (interpretation of the meaning): then be not soft in speech, B, Answer: As long as there is no intention of lust or corruption involved, then women singing in a chorus and non-Mahram men listening to them, is not a problem. Answer: If it will have an effect, then enjoin them to good and forbid them from evil, and other than this, you have no other responsibility, and in the event that you have relations and socializing with them, you must be careful that you dont fall into sin by looking at non-Mahrams. Non-Maram (Arabic: ) is someone who is not Mahram by blood, by marriage or by suckling.Observing the rules of hijab and looking are obligatory against non-mahram ones and marrying them is not prohibited; although, in some cases, a man and a woman are non-mahram while their marriage is prohibited.. the slander (al-ifk) that the hypocrites accused her of; in her Flirtatious way of communication should It is haram for a person to touch anything with the intention of lust, whether it be a man or woman, a baligh or non-baligh, even if ejaculation does not take place. Satisfy your quest for truth & authentic Islamic insights delivered straight to your inbox! So i just needed some advice on this.. is talking to a non-mahram guy online wrong?.. O you who have believed, do not follow the footsteps of Satan. with that, in sha Allah. there is a quick glance for the purpose of speaking, there is nothing wrong In any event, please see below for some conditions and guidelines. BGMST, 200 Rule: Bodily contact that happens in busy places (such as markets, processions, Salat al-Jumuah, funerals, the Sanctuaries (haram) of the Aimmah (Peace be upon all of them), and the House of Allah (SWT) in an unintentional way between a non-Mahram man and woman is not a problem, with the condition that one does not go to these places with the purpose and intention of being touched. Prior to the engagement surely you've spoken to this brother with your . May Allah Most High grant you the best of this world and the next. One such incident has been illustrated in the Quran, where Musa talks to two women who were strangers. Therefore: If a man knows that by talking to a non-Mahram woman, he will be compelled to lie, backbite, or put a false accusation on somebody - whether she makes him fall into sin, or he himself by means of talking to her falls into a sin, then it is not allowed to talk to her. is ideal to end the conversation. exposing oneself to temptation. Answer: Certain things that one can perform include: fasting, not eating too much food, refraining from eating certain foods that increase the sexual desire, and having those that lower the sexual passion. Unrecognized Email or Password, please try again. 179 Question: If one fears that by talking to a certain non-Mahram woman he will fall into sin, then is it allowed for him to talk to her? 8 Related questions More answers below The In both circumstances, it is an area of doubt. I have talked to other ppl..and he has talked to people too..and some say it's wrongand some say it's ok as long as our niyyat is good and we haven't done anything wrong. Talking to a non-Mahram woman is permissible when needed and when one is secure from temptation, but this should only be according to the need and without being in seclusion with her. better to avoid staring, and lowering the gaze, except after establishing is permitted to talk freely, be without hijab, etc. As long as these conditions are met, they are allowed to interact with each other. Enter valid first name and last name with at least one space. He made his camel kneel down and put his foot on its foreleg (to keep it previously discussed this issue in the answers to questions no. The heart longs and wishes, and the private part If something is unclear please do not hesitate to ask again. also take examples from the life of Sahaabiyat who used to ask questions to the Prophet Muhammad , and how he It is known in the religion of Allah that it is forbidden to follow in the footsteps of the Shaytan. 194 Question: Is it allowed to shake the hand of a non-Mahram? 179385. Both Re: Talking to non-mahram. GKLM, 178 Rule: If a man knows that by speaking to a non-Mahram woman he will fall into sin other than that of a sexual nature, then it is not allowed for him to speak to her. We very well know that giving into the whisperings of Shaitaan will lead us to do haraam things, and anything that could lead a person to fall into haraam things is also haraam. Does chatting between the sexes on social media sites come under the heading of khulwah that is forbidden? Unfettered access to members of the opposite sex, including casual friendships, can lead to emotional dependency, infatuation, and the physical behaviors that are associated with falling in love. Speaking to IMPORTANT : All content hosted onAl-Islam.orgis solely for non-commercial purposes and with the permission of original copyright holders. 201 Question: What is the ruling for going to places with a non-Mahram? Answer: It is necessary for you to explain to them that not shaking the hands of non-Mahram women is not due to bad manners, but instead, it is because of the beliefs in Islam and holding on to its commandments. Therefore: The conversations that are carried out with the intention of making others fall into sin (lustful conversations), such as explaining or describing sexual acts and scenes, are haram. Al-Khaadimi (a Muslim scholar) said: "Talking to non-Mahram young women is unlawful as it can lead to temptation. the Prophet spoke when he said: Verily Allah has fixed the very portion of adultery which a man will indulge in, and which he of necessity must commit. We have When is it permissible to look at women in general? The Prophet (saws) said, "Whenever a man is . 223 Question: Is it allowed for a woman do to something to draw the attention (eyes) of a non-Mahram man? Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) mentioned many of them and explained them well in his excellent book Alam al-Muwaqqiin. They live in two different countries. Dar al-Ifta al Misriyyah is considered among the pioneering foundations for fatwa in the Islamic world.It has been the premier institute to represent Islam and the international flagship for Islamic legal research. Quran. ABGKLMS. communicate with the opposite gender. It is not so. Islamic Reflections (abbreviated IR), is a blog turned multifaceted Islamic enterprise for believers of all ages. Note: Just as was mentioned concerning men, sometimes it is possible that women also become under the influence and tricks of the devil. BGKLMS. Well a year from now one of my friends, a girl, had introduced me to one of her online brothers. Read more 210 Rule: Masturbation is haram and one must refrain from it. Musa did converse with non-mahram women, but it was to the point and GL, 217 Rule: The intermingling of non-Mahram men and women is makruh, except if it is between an old man and an old woman. use of any words that may have some suggestive meanings, and so on. only regarding the issue of feeding the animals. Please enter the correct OTP! Sometimes, we face situations where we only in the presence of her Upvoted by Quora User , M.Phil Clinical Psychology & Psychology (2015) and But over time we both have grown interested in each other. ABGKLMS. al-Bukhaari, 4141 and Muslim, 2770. The condition for him to talk to women for marriage are these.if not fulfilled then it is prohibited for him to talk to the or get to know them. Also, is it allowed to print such books? B. there awkwardly smiling. Other than that, they are still your non mahram up until the nikaah takes place. ABGKLMST, If someone intentionally breaks his fast in the Month of Ramazan by masturbation then he must give the combined kaffarahs. ABGKMST. Thus the Ulama of Akhlaq have forbidden these acts, but if these acts are done with the intention of having others commit a haram act, then without doubt, they are haram. 204 Question: If a woman fears that in the event that she goes into a taxi that has a non-Mahram man in it, she or the taxi driver will fall into sin, is it allowed for her to go into that taxi? The woman does not make her voice soft and attractive. "A person who is blessed with the ability to be grateful, shall never be deprived of barakah and increase in blessings." What is strictly prohibited in Islam is that two non-mehram members of the opposite sex meet or talk alone in private, or hold casual or vain talk amongst each other, regardless of whether in person or through any other form of communication. Looking at, touching and covering oneself against non-mahram ones have . Assalaam alaikum, I've very recently started talking to a brother with the intent for marriage InshaAllah, we spoke for two days on musmatch then 189 Question: What is the ruling on listening to poems (read) with emotion and feeling that the radio stations of the Islamic Republic of Iran broadcast? Sitting beside a non-Mahram in taxis (or buses), or when guests come over to ones house. If it is done needlessly and only for fun and enjoyment, then there is no doubt that it is haraam and comes under the heading of the zina of the tongue and ears of which the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) spoke when he said: covered my face with my jilbab. in the path of Allah . know more about Islam. Rather, normally, when women are singing or reciting in the presence of men and men are listening to it, this leads to corruption and thus, it is not allowed. Rather, normally, when women are singing or reciting in the presence of men and men are listening to it, this leads to corruption, and thus, it is not allowed. However, if there is no possibility of falling into corruption, then it is not a problem. Related. non-mahram men/women, hence we must equip ourselves with knowledge as to how to Tarh at-Tathreeb, 8/53 2. We have been talking online for about a year now. ABGKLMST. Views : We cannot talk to non-mahrams in the same way we do with mahrams. Answer 350: According to Ayatollah Sistani (ha), all kinds of relations with a non-Mahram including joking, expressing mutual love, talking with the intention of deriving pleasure, looking at the body of a girl (except her face and hands up to the wrists) and at her hair or looking at her face with pleasure are haram (forbidden). You can ask your question on the website via this link: https://islamqa.info/en/ask, Password should contain small, capital letter and at least 8 characters long, Log in Is it allowed for a man to do something or wear a type of clothing in such a way so as to draw the attention of a non-Mahram woman? But a virtual khalwah can also happen through conversation by phone or Internet. Explain the rule of Allah and say ABGKLMST. Conversation, whether verbally or in writing, between men and women is permissible in and of itself, but it may be a way of falling into the traps of the Shaytaan. ABGKLMST. For example, if in a gathering, women are not observing complete (or proper) hijab; or they have any zinat on; or there is haram bodily contact taking place between the men and women, then this type of mixing becomes haram. Avoid You can avoid a handshake; moreover, people wouldnt want uses to open the door to haraam attraction between the sexes. Be stern, but not harsh. So I can keep in contact and choose her for marriage when Im ready. He recognized me when he saw me, as he used GKLM, 174 Rule: If a man knows that by speaking to a non-Mahram woman, he will fall into sin, then he must not speak to her; whether the woman speaks in such a way that she lures him into sin, or the topic is such that the man falls into sin. Here Allah forbids the believers to insult the non-Muslims lest that leads to them insulting the Lord, may He be glorified and exalted. ( if he wants to marry they he should ask her guardian for her hand. The Mother of the KLT, For a non-Mahram man and woman to be in a secluded place in which no one else is present, and also no one else can enter, is haram - whether they are busy in the remembrance of Allah; talking; sleeping or awake; and their Salat in that place as well is not valid. Answer: If it leads to corruption, then it is not allowed. 172 Rule: Men are allowed to speak to non-Mahram women as long as the following two conditions are met: The speaking does not lead either one of them to commit a sin. etiquette: The What is the ruling for non-Mahram men to hear such a thing? We both are aware of our religion and we know how it is haram to have girlfriends or boyfriends. Written by: Taz Iris Edited by: The Editorial Team The Islamic Reflections Blog, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KUh_6xSVeMQ, Such a useful and beneficial article.. Decline the handshake directly. Even when you want to talk to that person, it is good to have an elder present in this chat. Nobody was more polite and direct than the Prophet . The conversation or correspondence must be halted immediately if the heart starts to stir with feelings of desire. For example a woman would not cover herself in front of her brother-in-law, and she would consider her brother-in-law as her actual brother, in the same way the brother-in-law also considers this woman as his actual sister. asking how they are etc? A womans mahram is a person whom she is never permitted to marry because of their close blood relationship (such as her father, grandfather, great-grandfather, etc., and her son, grandson, great-grandson, etc., her paternal and maternal uncles, her brother, brothers son and sisters son), or because of radaaah or breastfeeding (such as the brother and husband of the woman who breastfed her), or because they are related by marriage (such as the mothers husband, the husbands father, grandfather, etc., and the husbands son, grandson, etc.). non-mahram women, but this is contrary to Islam and common sense, and it is Jazakillahu khair for sharing it. Other brothers (in the case of men) or sisters (in the case of women) should take part in the conversation or read the correspondence, so that the Shaytan will find no way to enter the hearts of the people who are conversing or. Does this action necessitate a Ghusl? Would that make a difference, or is it not permissible according to Hanafi school of thought? the young woman, she does not have to reply to him in order to avoid any kind of depravity. Communicating with Non-mahrams Islam faces many false claims regarding communication between men and women who are not mahram ( also referred to as mehram) to each other. 182 - Rule: Women are permitted to speak to non-Mahram men if the following conditions are met: The speaking is not done with the intention of lust and seeking (sexual) pleasure. We, as Muslims, should be strong in our faith. own family members who are ignorant of this would offer handshakes and we stand also be avoided. Not going to As far as I know, talking to the opposite sex is not haraam when their is a PURPOSE or a matter of URGENT attention. Therefore: Kissing the son of ones sister, grandchild, or any child, and as a whole, kissing any Mahram with a lustful intent is haram, with the exception of ones spouse. ), Answer: In the event that it helps or leads to a haram act, it must be avoided. appropriate eye contact. And when he came to the well of Madyan, he found there a crowd of people watering [their flocks], and he found aside from them two women driving back [their flocks]. B. B. 1- That it is not possible to speak to her through one of her mahrams or through a woman who is his mahram. Convey your message directly but do not be rude, both Not Answer: One must try to keep away from these kinds of thoughts, by occupying oneself with work or other thoughts. should speak is the same, ordinary tone of voice as they would speak to Allah Ta'ala commands them to abstain from conversing with non-Mahram men in a soft and sweet tone. ABGKLMS, 197 Rule: Even though looking at the face and hands of a Muslim woman in hijab, and looking at that amount of the body of a non-Muslim woman which is normally kept open is not a problem, however touching them is still not allowed. TALKING TO NON-MAHRAM IN ISLAM - YASMIN MOGAHED #Shorts #Relationship#YasminMogahed #Relationship #Nikah #IslamicWedding #Muslim#Islam #MuslimMarriage #Nonma. also susceptible to face situations in our daily life where we need to talk to the seriousness of the situation in which he found himself. Books on Islam, Muslims, Prophet Muhammad(s), Ahlul Bayt. Narrated by ABGKLT. branching off unnecessarily. poetry or proverbs or romantic phrases. website there is a section devoted to some of the fatwas that have to do 213 Question: What is the ruling on the one who masturbates? With regard to the second matter, He says (interpretation of the meaning): And insult not those whom they (disbelievers) worship besides Allah, lest they insult Allah wrongfully without knowledge. [al-An'am 6:108]. of the foot is walking. I woke up when I heard him Answer: If there is no intention of having pleasure or excitement and there is no chance of falling into corruption, then the act of sitting in itself is not a problem. opposite gender helps. L, 190 Rule: It is not a problem for women to recite Quran in front of non-Mahram men, even if it is in a pleasing voice, with the condition that it is not arousing nor does it cause corruption. GKLM. is a need to speak to a woman, the basic principle is that it is Answer. the shape of a person sleeping. What is the etiquette of talking to women in general and in the following situations: buying and selling; teaching and learning; meetings to discuss work, such as explaining something specific to her? Assalaamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarkatuhu .Jazakallahu khair for sharing this beautiful message. On our Unchecked, these developments can have a devastating impact on young people, particularly if the relationship is broken off by one of the parties, or, in the worst-case scenario, a physical relationship happens outside of marriage. I hope that you can explain in full detail. 59873, Create an account, If you do not have an account, you can click the button below to create one, Create new account AGKL, If someone touches something with the intention of lust, but does not ejaculate, then (his action) is not haram. 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Concerning this matter, Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): O you who believe! Maashallaah empathetic poem with wonderful words that decorated . Answer: In both instances, it is not allowed. position. We can verse and the following verses in Surah Al-Qasas show the conversation that Musa had with the two young women regarding feeding water to the animals. ABGKLMS. However, if the place is such that another person can enter (into the room), or there is a child who can distinguish between good and evil (Mumayyiz) present, then it is not a problem. As of now I have made no absolute contact with her or exchange of words. staring and always trying hard to lower the gaze as much as possible; if Intermingling with Cousins - Islamic Reflections. BT, According to Ihtiyat Mustahab, the combined kaffarah should be given. B, 177 Rule: If a man fears that by speaking to a non-Mahram woman, she will make him fall into sin, then he must not speak to her. We feel that refusing handshakes may hurt the other 196 Question: In some areas, the rules of Mahram and non-Mahram are not given much importance, especially in the smaller villages. Having a little interpersonal space when around the By Allah, we did not exchange a word and I no touching..nothing. From hadith: If you look illegally at someone else's non Mahram, someone will look at yours. Answer: It is not a problem if: it is not the voice of a specific woman whom he knows and this causes her degradation or dishonor; and this action of imitation does not stimulate him and it is not something vain and futile, and the same applies the other way around (a woman imitating the voice of a man). hadeeth she (may Allah be pleased with her) said: Safwaan ibn Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3118 Narrated by Umar ibn al-Khattab. Answer: None of the examples mentioned above are permitted and it is better that one should also avoid the above-mentioned acts even if it is over top of clothing. For example, there is a situation in which he can ask something from a man, but instead, he asks a non-Mahram woman; sometimes his conversation with non-Mahram women is prolonged so as to be able to talk with them more; going to places of amusement and on vacations with non-Mahram women is more attracting to him; if there is a place where there are non-Mahram women, he desires to be there more than other places; and when guests come over, he tries to talk and socialize more with the non-Mahram women than the men. 214 Question: What should one do to control ones sexual desires, and in the situation (where one can not control his sexual desires), is masturbation allowed or not? 176 Question: Is it allowed for a man to talk to a non-Mahram woman who wants to speak to him in a lustful manner? that those women were non-mahram, nor did he speak too much or out of topic. Answer: In the name of Allah, Most Compassionate, Most Merciful. In some Muslim communities, people consider that it is completely forbidden for a man to communicate with a non-mahram woman and vice versa. In Islam the khalwah (privacy) with the non-mahram female (ajnabiyyah) is forbidden. AG, According to Ihtiyat Wajib, a man and woman who are non-Mahram, must not be alone in a secluded place where there is no one else and where no one else can enter; even if they are only reciting their Salat in that place, and in fact, there is also a problem with the Salat that is read there. Dushka Zapata Social introvert: let's hang out. AGK, 212 Rule: It is not allowed to make or prepare anything for the purpose of a forbidden sexual act. disclosing or asking personal information like the whereabouts of the person, Therefore: The youth especially must refrain from showing off and things relating to the above examples. G, 221 Rule: It is haram to show off with the intention of wanting to making others fall into sin. Adams share of zina has been decreed for him, which he will inevitably get. to see me before the hijab was enjoined. Maybe cough a few times, keeping your hands on your mouth. It is Answer: If it leads to corruption, then it is not allowed. In the event that it must be avoided, if it is done over top of clothing, then what is the ruling? These things are done out of pure ignorance and without any sexual excitement or lust thus, is it allowed? 192 Question: What is the ruling for writing letters to non-Mahram men and discussing romantic or lustful things in the letter? replied to them. confirms that or denies it.. Join our team! You can't chill with him, talk on the phone with him, even go out in groups with this person. Answer: If it is done with the intention of lust, then it is not allowed. Here are some tips to handle such a situation. GKLMS ABGKLMS. Masturbation however, in every instance is haram; and the best way to make sure that the sexual desires are not the reason for committing a haram act is permanent or temporary marriage, which (also) has a lot of reward in it. Simply observe your hijab, be pleasant, and don't engage in aimless conversation. Therefore: Instances such as wearing specific kinds of clothing with the aim of having non-Mahram women fall into sin, talking, looking, walking, having a lustful behavior with the aim of drawing the attention of non-Mahram women; driving or getting onto a motorbike in a certain way in front of a Non-Mahram, joking, working out (in fitness clubs) in a specific way in front of a non-Mahram so as to make them fall into sin; putting on a necklace, keeping the arms and chest open with the aim of drawing the attention of non-Mahram women, etc all of these and other such things are haram and one must refrain from performing them. Khalwah of course occurs when a male and a female are alone in person. We may not know, this might intrigue them to Thus, sometimes a woman will be so friendly to a non-Mahram man as if it is her brother. steady), then I mounted it, and he set off, leading me on the mount, until There are a few etiquettes that need to be followed. G, 205 Rule: Kissing a Mahram is not a problem with the condition that it is not with the intention of lust. extremes in embellishing ones speech . Questions cannot be asked through this form, Applying the principle of warding off harm, Importance of consulting knowledgeable people, Conversation, whether verbally or in writing, between men and women. Question: Is it okay for a female to talk to a non-mahram male online, not work or school-related talks, just about everyday life, e.g. Brief Biographies Of The Maraja Presented In This Book, Ayatullah Al-Udhma Al-Hajj Ash-Shaykh Ali Araki, Ayatullah Al-Udhma Al-Hajj Ash-Shaykh Muhammad Taqi Al-Behjat, Ayatullah Al-Udhma Al-Hajj As-Sayyid Muhammad Riza Al-Gulpaygani, Ayatullah Al-Udhma Al-Hajj As-Sayyid Ruhullah Al-Musawi Al-Khomeini Al-Hindi, Ayatullah Al-Udhma Al-Hajj Ash-Shaykh Muhammad Fazil Al-Lankarani, Ayatullah Al-Udhma Al-Hajj Ash-Shaykh Nasir Makarim Ash-Shirazi, Ayatullah Al-Udhma Al-Hajj As-Sayyid Ali Al-Husaini As-Seestani, Ayatullah Al-Udhma Al-Hajj Ash-Shaykh Mirza Jawad At-Tabrizi, Rules Of Looking When In A State Of Doubt, A) Men Looking At The Photographs Of Non-Mahram Women, B) Women Looking At The Photographs Of Men, B) Covering For Men In Front Of Maharim, Men, And Others, C) Covering Of Men In The Presence Of Non-Mahram Women, D) Covering For Men In The Presence Of Children, A) Covering For Women In The Presence Of Non-Mahram Men, D) Rules Related To Beautification (Zinat), E) Covering Of A Woman In The Presence Of Other Women, F) Covering Of A Woman In The Presence Of Children, 2. Receive updates on our courses, services, and offerings. Speaking to non-mahram women may occur because of a need or it may occur needlessly. Avoiding Whoever knows that he is somewhat weak, and is afraid that he may fall into the traps of the Shaytan, has to refrain from such conversations, in order to save himself. We wont offend anybody by going The Messenger of Allah said: If one of you were to be struck in the head with an iron needle, it would be better for him than if he were to touch a woman he is not allowed to.. Note and warning: Sometimes, it can be seen that in the hearts of men, the devil has become so firm that many of their social gatherings are doubtful, and it can be seen that a man has more interest in mingling with non-Mahram women than with his own Maharim. the parties engaging in the conversation should maintain an ordinary tone, and heard. Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid, Friendship and love between a man and a woman, Ruling on a woman participating in chat rooms and talking to men. Non-Mahram men and women walking in a common, crowded area such as corridors, small alleys, doors, gates, etc. Safwaan did when he made his camel kneel without speaking or asking This is a means that the Shaytaan ABGKLT. please give me some advice here..thank you.. khuda hafiz, Contents non-mahram Giving dawah to non-mahrams Submitted by user2 on Wed, 2017-12-27 07:38 Q: I am a teen at the age of 17 and I am wondering if it is permissible for me to give Dawah to a non-mahram female. 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